Moving house can be a distressing experience for children. Children like stability
and can find it hard to adapt to changes. Involve your children from the start.
Whether you are buying or renting let your children decide if they like the new
home and the area before you decide to move there.
Communicate
It is very important that you let your children know all you can about the new
home, area, schools etc.. Children are very imaginative and can build their own
version of how things are going to be. Research the area for schools and activities
that are of interest to them and share your knowledge with them. This will put
their minds at rest and they can start looking forward to the move. or tease
them about questions they may have that seem trivial to you they are very important
to your kid/s.
Encourage your children to talk about any worries that they might
have. Try to understand their concerns the best you can and reassure them that
you are there for them and that you will help them to adjust as much as possible.
Allow your children time to grieve over leaving behind their
home, school, friends and family. Encourage them to write or let their friends
visit (if you don`t live to far a way.) Take them to visit their favourite places
one last time before you move.
Involve the kids
Take the children to have a look at the new home and the neighbourhood. If you
live to far away from the new home and can`t take the kids take photos for them
to look at so that they can get a feel for the new home.
Don`t let your children stay with relatives or friends while
you are moving. Instead, include the children in unpacking and arranging their
new rooms. Arrange children's rooms first, they'll feel more secure if surrounded
by familiar things.
Moving with small children
Take
them to the new home and let them visit parks and play groups in the area.
Leave
toilet training and other routine changes until your child is fully settled into
the new home.
Allow them to choose their own rooms.
Visit the new school with your children several times before
the first day
Sort their room out first to get them settled. Expect some regressive behaviors, such as thumb-sucking, sleep
disturbances, or bed-wetting to appear before. It might take them a while to
get settled. Reassure your children at all times and don`t shout at them if they
are a behaving a bit badly.
Let them help you pack a box with their favorite toys, books,
bedtime companions, and clothes this will make them feel more comfortable when
traveling.
After a few weeks check with them concerning school, their new
room, friends, etc
Moving with older children
Throw a party for your children to say good bye to their friends
properly..
Give your children specific jobs to help with the move. Let them
know that their cooperation is essential and appreciated. Let them pack their
own things.
Encourage your child to investigate your new community by visiting
or writing for information, then sharing it with the rest of the family.
Research the area for activities and clubs that your children
wil be interested in.
Let them to choose and decorate their own rooms.
Take your children a long to visit their new school before their
first day.
Do not try to convince them of how much they will like the new
home, neighbours, school and the area. Only they can decide on how long it will
take them to adjust.
Try to time your family's move to coincides with the beginning
of a new school year or term. Making new friends is easier when a new term is
just starting.
Let them know that they can invite their friends to come and
stay at weekends and on holidays.
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